Tuesday, 19 July 2011

"All The Live Long Day..." (Groan)

I am not a happy puppy.  Nor am I a happy camper - or anything with the prefix 'Happy' attached to it.

You remember that movie 'Groundhog Day' wherein Bill Murray gets stuck for days on end, filming in some hick town in winter?  Well at least he had the very pretty Andy McDowell to provide entertainment of the carnal/fantasy kind, and eventually worked out how to make life bend to his wishes.

With me, it's that but without any of the chance for redemption that getting to truly live each day identically over and over would afford.  You see the days are still tick-tick-ticking by, the calendar is progressing through July, and the state of my unwaxed legs would attest to the fact that yes, indeed a touch too much time has passed since I properly turned a much needed critical eye toward my personal grooming habits....but I digress.

What I mean to say is that every morning I wake up to either Egg or Dumpie jumping on me (more on that later, and why this is the absolute worst possible wake up I could endure under present circumstances) and whooshing open our balcony door to declare either 'It looks like it might rain Mama" or the more usual, "Look Mama, it's raining...what are we going to doooooo today?" (Insert random bored whines, sighs, and rustling through bedside drawers for treats or neat things to break.)

Like the husband said the other day, it feels like we're on some sort of really bad reality tv show, only there are no cameras here to film our descent into madness and squalor.  Mores the pity I guess.  But taking that theme to heart....

"Week Seven in the Non-Big-Brother House and the contestants have all now resigned themselves to getting on each others nerves 24/7.  The Father of the bunch wears a look of perpetual weariness and defeat, choosing to harness himself to his laptop at the dining room table most of the time, doing all manner of who knows what all daylong - only breaking occasionally for killer bike rides across Britain - (which may or may not have been fabricated in a desperate attempt to escape his family for a time.....the jury is out on that one).

Approximately twelve days ago the Mother figure awoke in the middle of the night to such piercing neck pain that it made her pause briefly and shuffle the 'Pain-o-Meter' in her head such that giving birth (previously the most pain she had ever experienced) reluctantly took second place to this new and excruciating neck spasm-y thing.

Since then, despite being bedridden on and off, feeling utterly claustrophobic (never mind the danger that crossing roads take on when one cannot subtly glance over ones shoulder to ascertain whether there is indeed advancing traffic coming quickly up one side) and a total grouch (chronic pain will do that to you - you betcha), there are still beds to make, food to be procured and meals to be made, and two lively little boys to entertain all day every day.  Oh joy oh bliss.

The little boys have long since given up the daily battle for power in this household.  There is no need.  They won fair and square a long time ago.  This is their world and we are merely living in it...at least as concerns the various four walls of this domestic purgatory the four find themselves cohabitating within.  

The little one has taken to carrying around a tiny polished teaspoon in his shorts pocket, the better with which to randomly help himself to the Ben and Jerry's Cookie Dough Ice Cream he rather favours, dipping into the freezer whenever he fancies himself a little treat.  

The elder boy has taken ownership of a gigantic cardboard box which has the remnants of five or so rolls of tape decorating it's outer layer, and inside hosts an assortment of expensive leather pillows, cotton throws and all manner of kiddie bric-a-brac.  He insists on carrying it up and down the stairs and when it's in situ in a hallway there is no way around it, it is so large.  If anyone so much as threatens to do away with it, inconsolable tears are wept and brows are beaten and it's just too much to take, so the little guy is allowed to further cramp up our home with a structure large enough to house a small family in the Indian slums."

"Get a cleaner!"I hear you roar.  Well we would, if only a cleaner could as much as step over all the clutter threatening to bury us alive in here (like the people on that BBC Documentary about hoarders a long time ago).  We are at least a week away (maybe more if this neck thing don't sort itself out pronto) from even beginning the dialogue about hiring a cleaner to come and help us out once a week.

In fact, it's laughable.  I forgot how cleaners usually visit weekly, for a mere three hours a time.  Ha!  I do three hours of senseless ceaseless (PAYLESS) domestic labour each morning - and that's just in order to imbibe my breakfast Kellog's Special K in a room that doesn't make me want to a) scream  b) throttle my husband and children with rage  c) off myself with an overdose of vitamins.

Who are we kidding.  I need (in this order):

1. Live-in Osteopath (to daily sort out my messed up neck until I no longer sob upon awakening)
2. Live-in Pembantu/Nanny/Au-Pair (must be fat, ugly and hairy)
3. Live-in Cleaner/Cook (so I can spend my time actually DOING something with my life besides    ageing my hands with cleaning products and breaking my back mopping all the live long day)
4. A bigger house (to accommodate the above-mentioned staff)

In my dreams right?  (That's what the husband more or less intimated when I brought this up earlier, bent over the dishwasher having a right old moan about the current state of things).

Well in that case I'm off to bed...perchance to dream...


  1. well I have only been in blighty almost a week and ............ I know where you are coming from.

    NOt having nanny or husband and the children absolutely refusing to go to bed as it is daytime mummy! All their lives they have lived in the tropics so this getting dark at 10.30 thing. anyway 3 London friends have so far made it to the madness with wine and wit otherwise I think it would have been a midsummer murder (this village is a bit like that.

  2. Hello! Richele Here - ex of Jonny Scott and now current (well wife and partner of 8 years) of Nigel and mother to Ella who is four. Rachel Jones (ex of Aric) (so many exes...) told me about your blog...I feel like a bit of a stalker but it's been great to see how you guys are and to read the musings of a normal mother of normal children! The boys antics have had me giggling and I have also been very envious of you all gettign so much time together (I think) We are setting off back to NZ next year via 6 months in Thailand and Bali and I wondered if you (and the boys) were about sometime for me to buy you a coffee and cake in exchange for some advice about Bali and travelling with kids? No great hurry or pressure, I'd just love to hear your advice on places, costs, what you would do again, what you wouldn't etc. Hope everything is going OK settling back in - at least it is sunny again now and you can - and the kids can - be outside! richele@c21media.net


  3. I like "Groundhog Day" and thanks for sharing ur blog with us.love it.


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